No Two Heads Are Alike What Natural Curlies Need To Understand

Good Morning Curlies;

It’s been some time since I’ve had an early post but as I was getting dressed for todays errands I realized a struggle or should I say misunderstanding that many of us in the natural hair community have, Hair Growth & Curl Pattern Issues. Just about every curlie I meet either says, “I love your curl pattern, I can’t get my curls to look like that.” Or “I wish my hair would grow faster, I’m tired of wearing this short afro.” Both comments represent the real struggles that we experience but it doesn’t have to be this way. With a few changes you will and can start to embrace your hair and love the hair you’re with!

  • Learn From Your Hair

Your hair has a language that it speaks to you everyday but it’s your job as its owner to take the time to learn the message. If you wake up to hair that feels like straw then your hair is telling you that it needs some extra moisture like maybe a homemade deep conditioner mix of avocado, honey, and mayo. Yes I know, it doesn’t sound good but the results will be good so its worth the effort. Listen to your hairs needs and give it what it’s asking for.

  • Rome Wasn’t Built In A Day

Anything worth its salt is double its work. A quote my granny often blurted to me which meant nothing at the time but now I get it (thanks Granny♥). If your goal is to have bra strap length curls then it will take some patience, care, and time. If you are consistent with how you treat your locks and you don’t omit or short cut the care, your hair will pay you back with growth that is retained. Most curlie’s problems are that we grow weary and tired of waiting so we either slack off with the TLC or we put it in a weave and just leave it there. Read my post on caring for natural hair when it’s in protective styles here.

  • Your Hair Length Has Been Predetermined and So Has Your Curl Pattern

You’ve been dotting every I and crossing every T. Deep conditioning once a week, practicing low manipulation, and sleeping on a satin pillowcase but yet your hair won’t budge past your shoulders and your goal is bra strap. Well it may not be that your work is in vain. It could be that your hair may be predetermined to remain shoulder length. Let me explain: it’s called terminal hair length and each month, your hair grows at a certain rate that may increase or decrease slightly from month to month. This rate is typically 1/2 inch per month: slightly faster for Asians and Caucasians and closer to average or just below for Blacks. Each strand has its own timetable of growing time. Both your monthly growing rate and your total growing period, are determined to a large extent by your genetics. Terminal length is the length that your hair would reach if you never cut it, it never broke-off, and you allowed it to grow freely without interruption. Once hair has completed its total growing period and has reached its terminal length, it will shed naturally and be pushed out by a new growing strand. This process repeats all over your head on a daily basis for ever and ever Amen.

Everyone’s curl pattern is different and many of us have different curl patterns on our heads. My hair is more tightly coiled in the back and sides, but the top and front has a looser curl pattern. This is normal and really cannot be explained. What you need to understand is this is normal so don’t go chopping off those loose curls mistaking it for heat damaged or left over relaxed hair. You may have to accommodate the curls by using a different product on that portion of you hair. Its kind of like makeup when we add concealer to certain part of our face and not all over.

The important lesson to walk away with is to love the curls you are in and since you and your hair will be together until the end you need to find out what it will take to live in peace and harmony with each other. What works for your dynamics may not work for me. Happy curly living!

Do you struggle with any of these issues? I would love to hear your comments below.

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4 thoughts on “No Two Heads Are Alike What Natural Curlies Need To Understand

  1. Great post! Although I feel like I now my hair, I’m still doing different tests and challenges to learn my hair, how it works with products, and what styles are the best for my curl pattern and hair texture. It’s really a journey, but doesn’t have to be a struggle


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