I am a day late for the Making Love Monday post but I decided to post it late rather than wait until next week. Lately, I’ve been reading a book that has changed my viewpoint or perception of people and my relationships with them. Anytime you can read a good book that changes your thought pattern for the better, it’s always worth sharing with others. The book titled: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is a must read for everyone, male or female, that’s looking for a practical guide to personal freedom.
I ‘m going to share a few highlights of the book without being a spoiler alert. Basically Don Miguel Ruiz gives four principles to practice in order to create love and happiness in your life. Transitioning your life to committing to these agreements is probably going to be one of the hardest things you will ever do, but it is doable only if you are “willing to do the work” quoted frequently by spiritual advisor, Iyanla Vanzant . If you are able to establish the four practices your life will change dramatically! The Four Agreements are:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
I purposefully did not go into detail about the four agreements because you need to buy this book and read it for yourself.
Upon reading, my eyes were opened to new possibilities for living life. Number 2 has been one of my greatest challenges to overcome especially during the inception of this blog. I of course was ecstatic to have the courage to start this journey but I quickly discovered that SOME of those I thought would share in the joy with me (family members, friends, colleagues, etc) were silent. A muted voice to my happiness. This seemed unfair and was very hurtful, but understanding that nothing others do is because of me and that what others do is really a projection of their own realty and their own dreams, I was able to turn that disappointment into a celebration of sorts because I realized that I became a reminder to them, a mirror of their dreams gone unresponsive, a reminder of their fears. I realized that they actually admired my courage to go forward with the blog, but in that same moment my courage became a reminder of their fears of not starting or doing something they’ve always wanted to do. You see, it wasn’t about what I was doing they had a problem with, it was about what they weren’t doing for themselves that became a problem for them. Whew…this revelation has been so liberating to me! Some folks just can’t celebrate with others and I get it now, I’m over it, and I forgive them even if they didn’t ask me to but I need to keep my mind and spirit free. On the flip side I also realize that some simply don’t care what is going on in other people’s lives, or they only care about things that are important to or beneficial to them.
I wish you much Love, Joy, and Laughter in your Journey and I hope that you read the book.